About Isle of Wight Mediation

Patricia on Mediation: "For me, this incredible sculpture from the Ukraine says it all and who would have known how potent a symbol such a sculpture would be, when years later the Ukraine would be at war.   In our daily lives, by our nature, we prefer not to have conflict.  Inside we wish for peace and harmony and at least minimal negative stress in our lives.  Despite some claims that humans prefer conflict, the real truth seems to be we get drawn into conflict then can find no way out.  The increasing worldwide use of Mediation and its many forms, and its incredible success, is a testimony to that. 

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Some years ago, I saw a compelling TV series, that I still have not traced, where the question of why wills were not made was explored.  One of the reasons was the difficulty in resolving complex issues.  One of the many scenarios was a mother with 3 children.  Two boys and a girl all now adults.  The girl was physically severely disabled but mentally fully able.  The mother wanted to leave a big portion of her "estate" to the daughter in order to provide care for her as at the moment, Mum was the primrary carer.  Whilst the sons understood that, there were various factors they were upset about which meant no agreement was reached.  Mum loved all her children and could find no way forward.  Thus no Will was made.  A Mediator was brought in.  After putting everyone around the table together first, with agreement, each person was then interviewed seperately.  Each person was heard and taken into account.  A difficult situation but all parties reached agreement as to what should be done.  Mum made her Will which also avoided intestacy (dying without a Will) and the will being contested afterward and possible deepening of family upset.  The source of distress was finally put to rest.  It was a testament to the desire to end conflict and reach agreement.  I decided then, that one day I would like to be that mediator."

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This is the original article describing this sculpture by Alexi Panos at Burning Man in Sept 2015:

"One of the most powerful art pieces at #burningman this year: the sculpture of two adults fighting, backs to one another...yet the inner child in them both just wants to connect and love one another. Age has so many beautiful gifts, but one that I could live without is the pride and resentment we hold onto when we are in conflict with others. The forgiving, open and free spirit of children IS OUR TRUE NATURE; and I know I'll be remembering this next time I'm feeling stubborn" (LOVE by Ukraine artist Alexandr Milov)